{"id":235190,"date":"2021-02-24T00:24:46","date_gmt":"2021-02-24T09:24:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/writersatlarge.com\/riff\/?p=235190"},"modified":"2021-02-24T00:28:23","modified_gmt":"2021-02-24T09:28:23","slug":"the-email","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/writersatlarge.com\/riff\/the-email\/","title":{"rendered":"The Email"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I\u2019ve just gotten an email. Hope fades like a rainbow as I scan to the part where they tell me that my story isn\u2019t a good fit for the magazine and wish me luck on finding a home. This time, they\u2019ve included reviewer feedback. I try downloading the attachment on my iPhone as I\u2019m away from my laptop but it\u2019s painfully slow, so I give up.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to read these comments, partly because I dread discovering that I\u2019ve done something really stupid, the recollection of which I\u2019m trying to resist, but mostly because I fear that reading these comments may crush any lingering desire I have to write.<\/p>\n

I know, I know<\/strong><\/em>\u2014all about the gazillions of rejections Stephen King or J.K. Rowling (not comparing myself to them) got. You just have to persist. Rejection is part of the game. If you aren\u2019t getting rejected, you\u2019re not writing. I\u2019m not trying to be a best-selling novelist, but I would be happier if my stories had a home.<\/p>\n

I have been writing for 14 years, and I\u2019m humble enough to know that I still have a lot to learn.<\/span><\/p>\n

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“Rejection is part of the game. If you aren\u2019t getting rejected, you\u2019re not writing.”<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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I have read dozens of books on writing techniques and on story and the hero\u2019s journey\u2014all written by the Greats. I have found the golden nuggets and tried incorporating them into my writing. I have attended writing workshops where we critiqued one another\u2019s writing.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The net result of all this training is that I came to a point where I had read so much about writing, I couldn\u2019t write anymore. The creative juice had evaporated. I was trying to be a writer and a censor, which doesn\u2019t work.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Walking a thin line<\/strong><\/h2>\n

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On the one hand, I must write and write and get better at my craft. One great inspiration for just that has been Dorothea Brande\u2019s book Becoming a Writer<\/a>. <\/i><\/span><\/span>Her basic premise is that writers often make the mistake of putting the focus on learning the craft of writing long before we ever become writers\u2014you know those people who sit down and write. I took this to heart and for several months did morning writings just about every day, and after about 100,000 words, proved to myself that I could write. And out of those daily writings, I had quite a few short stories\u2014stories that I polished and sent out to a few literary journals only to get the same message\u2014<\/span>your story is not a good fit.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Sometimes I feel that we writers burden ourselves with too much asking for permission. I have started rethinking the route of submitting (pun intended) to literary journals. Do I need a license from them to call myself a writer? A painter paints. She puts her paintings out for display and says, \u201cHere is my art. Take it or leave it.\u201d People don\u2019t typically come along and say, \u201cYou know, I think you need to make those trees a deeper green and you have way too many stars in that sky. Revise it.\u201d And so I have asked myself why a writer can\u2019t simply put out a work and say, \u201cHere it is.\u201d To answer a somewhat rhetorical question, it is because a publisher (we are not even talking, a film producer) needs to invest in your writing. Errors don\u2019t fare well with printing presses.<\/div>\n

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It isn\u2019t you simply buying the canvas and producing the whole thing yourself. Now if that painter wants her art hung in the Metropolitan Museum of Art, her works have to be accepted.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the same with a literary magazine. The editors must decide out of hundreds or thousands of submissions what to print. Today we can self-publish, so maybe I\u2019m whining over a moot point.<\/p>\n

But more to my point, the critiques and rejections, which I feel authors face far too many of, can inhibit a writer. I once had a story rejected because the main character, who happened to be a woman, hated (and was poor at) math and science. The magazine was willing to publish the story, provided I changed the character to a male. I am a woman writing about a girl who hates math. Is this really sexually biased?<\/p>\n

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Last night I had a dream. My husband and I were living in a large house with lots of people. We had a shared central living room and all around it, up and down the stairs, our housemates had their bedrooms or sleeping quarters. One day I was walking down a hallway and a woman was getting rid of an old mattress that had been standing up against the wall for ages. The space looked so nice without the mattress that everyone started relooking at their own areas and rearranging things. We all worked on this for several days.<\/p>\n

At one point, I walked into the space that had once been the living room and saw that it no longer looked like a room. With all this rearranging, we had destroyed the very part of the house that we loved. Everyone had worked so hard to make the changes that no one wanted to admit that we had gone too far. At one point we were having a house meeting when I stood up and adamantly declared that the previous living room had been wonderful and that we needed to put it back the way it was. Then I woke up.<\/p>\n

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I\u2019m thankful for this timely dream because it pinpoints the problem with the constant critiquing: the story you wrote can lose its essence. When is enough, enough? \u00a0When do you say, \u201cThis is it, I have created this work and I am happy with it\u201d?\u00a0 When\u2014and how\u2014do we stop asking for permission?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Now, I think I\u2019ll go read that email attachment.<\/span><\/h3>\n

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